Right about now you’re probably thinking that your ex girlfriend has gone quite mad. You have tried everything to get her to change her mind and at least consider getting back together but all you’re getting is more rejection and attitude from her. You’ve agreed with everything that she says and promised to make the necessary changes to your relationship based upon the reasons she gave you for leaving you but she isn’t budging. What is she thinking and why won’t she even talk about seeing each other and trying to salvage what was once a very loving relationship?
Even though she might have given you a laundry list of reasons why she was breaking up with you or some logical reasons why she won’t consider getting back together, the real reason why things went south is a little more elusive. Yes, the reasons that she gave you weren’t the true reasons why she left you. Sure, she might be genuinely angry or upset about something but this has nothing to do with the real reason why she won’t forgive you and come back to you.
The real reason why she broke up with you and why she hasn’t come back to you is because of what she is feeling emotionally. A woman makes all of her decisions based upon emotions or feelings. Sure, there might have been the “straw that broke the camel’s back” sort of incident that made her leave but it was probably more how you made her feel or how you didn’t make her feel that led to your breakup.
Chances are that you simply weren’t making her feel the kind of emotions that a woman needs to feel in a relationship in order for her to feel loved and for her to feel secure enough to love you back. All of this has nothing to do with buying her gifts or telling her that you love her ten times a day. Although, telling her that you love her and making her believe it would have been a step in the right direction back when you were together. Making her feel like she was beautiful and pretty and appreciated and important in her life are basically what a woman looks for when they’re in a relationship. They need to feel these emotions. Let me explain.
Women are emotional creatures and they make their decisions based upon how things make them feel. A certain pair of jeans might make them feel fat even though their weight hasn’t changed. They might see a certain pair of shoes that they think will make them feel cute or pretty in so they buy them. It doesn’t matter if they’re three hundred dollars and they’re going to kill her feet. She will buy those shoes if they make her feel good about herself. If she feels a certain emotion, she will wear those shoes until her feet fall off.
Relationships work the same way. Even her relationship with you works this way. If she felt loved and pretty and intelligent when she was with you then she is more likely to put up with all of your bad habits and the occassional mistake on your part. But once she isn’t feeling those emotions that she needs to feel when she’s with you she starts to look at you in a more negative light. She might have started complaining about silly things or you might have noticed that you couldn’t do anything right. That should have been a sign for you.
On the other hand, if a guy can make a girl feel like she’s the prettiest girl in the room and he shows genuine interest in her and her thoughts then you can get away with murder. In your case, you need to make her remember what it felt like when you did make her feel all of those wonderful feelings. She needs to be able to look at you with some respect again and remember what it was like to be in love with you again. The problem is that right now in her mind your opinion and your words don’t mean a thing. It’s OK though. We can fix that.
You first have to change how she thinks about you. You’re going to have to subtly and gingerly remind her or jog her memory into remembering what it was like when things were good between the two of you. You’re going to have to help her to trust you again and rebuild your relationship so you can get a second chance at making her feel those wonderful emotions that every woman needs to feel in order to fall in love again. Understand that we’re talking about a woman here and her emotions can change in a moment so you can use this to your advantage when you’re trying to get your ex girlfriend back. Never under estimate how quickly a woman can go from hating you to loving you. You can count on that!